When the Rug Gets Pulled Out from Under You
As I navigated my way through the five stages of grief I relied heavily on my faith, though it often came into question, and I read several inspirational books. One of my favorites was the original Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield. Filled with aspiring stories, it lifted my spirits and comforted my soul. But the lessons that benefitted my growth and acceptance of my situation the most were from The Road Less Traveled, by M. Scott Peck, MD.
The very first line of the book states that “life is difficult.” He goes on to say:
Most do not fully see this truth that life is difficult. Instead they moan… about the enormity of their problems, their burdens, and their difficulties as if life were generally easy, as if life should be easy… I know about this moaning because I have done my share.”
A friend once told me she felt like “the rug had been pulled out from under her,” after she had been faced with a difficult trial. What a great description of the feelings one experiences when events take us in an unwelcome direction, especially when we think that life should be a magic carpet ride. I for one, looked at life through rose colored glasses.
Life had been fairly easy for me and an interruption in that stability was quite unsettling. Not to say that being diagnosed with TM would knock anyone off their feet, but I had no idea how to cope with the changes. It wasn’t until I was able to accept the trials that went along with the diagnosis that I could find joy in my life again.
“… it is because of the pain that events or conflicts engender in us all that we call them problems. And since life poses an endless series of problems, life is always difficult and is full of pain as well as joy.”
Dr. Peck’s insights into the true meaning of life which bring with it pain and sorrow, along with prosperity and joy helped me learn to eventually accept my circumstances and ultimately find joy in the journey.
"Yet it is in this whole process of meeting and solving problems that life has its meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually…As Benjamin Franklin said, "Those things that hurt, instruct."
Life is truly a journey of unknown adventures and learning opportunities. It is filled with wonder, beauty and pitfalls. It is, however, short. When it bowls you over, grieve, then pick yourself up, dust yourself off and embrace the moment.